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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - of course I own the decisions we made, and in reality DH and I have a great partnership. But even though I'm proud of him, I want to have the opportunity to have my own accomplishments, too. I am just as capable!

Part of the issue is that we get much more incremental benefit from investing in DH's career over mine, so the cost-benefit calculation never quite fell in favor of my interests. It is what it is - he is white and male, I am neither, and investing in me is just a much bigger risk because people don't see me as competent in the same way.[/quote]

And if that was the case you could always have [b]scaled back your lifestyle[/b] to support the risk. But if you don't think you're worth it then that's the real problem.[/quote]

Money is not our issue, time and location is. No amount of scaling back our lifestyle short of major, potentially unrecoverable changes to DH's career can make the types of risks DH got to take early in our career possibly for me at this point.

I was hoping to hear some perspectives from other ambitious women who had to become the trailing spouse because their husbands' careers took off. If you were never interested in being the breadwinner or if you wanted a more traditional marriage from the outset or if neither of you has a "big job" - I don't think you can relate.

- OP[/quote]

Well I just kept trucking along and DH either had to join or back down. Much like you did with your DH. Judging by your attitude though it sounds like he was always the more ambitious one anyways. [/quote]

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