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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know how you feel but I'm OK with it. Both my DH and I got our MBA's and started with the same company in similar jobs making the same money. After we had our second child I decided to set up my own consulting business to give me a little more flexibility. The business did very well financially and my home/work balance was great but I was somewhat envious of my DH climbing the ranks. When our kids reached middle school and we relocated for the third time in five years I decided to semi-retire to be closer to them during their very critical years. I gave up my consulting business despite it being successful and frankly, I was pretty well known in my industry. I took a job in our town running a non-profit for little pay but it was very rewarding and I was around for my kids. My DH's career was very successful and he ran a couple of well known companies. His profile in his industry was high and I often wondered what would have happened with my career if I hadn't taken somewhat of a mommy track. I was definitely jealous but at the same time my kids were developing into outstanding young adults, my DH and I had a very loving relationship and our life was hard to beat. We definitely made relocation decisions to benefit his career at the expense of mine but I was always very supportive because the jobs were great and the locations were very nice. My DH was always very supportive of what I wanted to do but his career was clearly #1. Once we became empty nesters I retired rom the non-profit, took up a hobby and have turned it into a very nice business that perfectly fits our now retired lifestyle. So while I do wonder what I might have achieved in the corporate world I readily admit that I have a great life. I know my DH and my now married kids very proud of what I have done in all parts of my life so I'm very content. [/quote]

Thanks for this perspective. I agree that it's the "what could've been" that really grinds on me, even though I am so thankful for how wonderful our lives are, objectively. - OP[/quote]

PP here - it ate at me too but when I looked at my life holistically I realized that what "I could have been" paled in comparison to "what we had". Be thankful you have a wonderful life because few really do. Your last job title will not be what's on your tombstone! [/quote]

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