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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My friend's dc has DS but loves soccer. There is a clique of parents in his neighborhood who put together rec teams for their area league of all kids from his neighborhood school and in many years, there has not been one free space for him on those teams with kids from his own school. Although other kids have come and gone. He always gets assigned to teams that practice in other neighborhoods with kids from other schools.

People are assholes. I don't know how some of them look themselves in the mirror in the morning.

(Oh, and the rec league rules allow an extra player on the field for his team when he plays, so its not about winning.)[/quote]

My typical kid was cut from the neighborhood team this season. It was very hurtful, especially the first time he ran into his old team on the field at practice, and the first game the teams played one another this eason.

The coaches are the same and it is a team he has played with several seasons. All of the kids in our neighborhood are on this team except for one other kid.

It is really, really hurtful. The coach has always acted like he enjoyed having my kid on his team, so we are not sure what is at play.  The first time he saw the team and realized all his friends and our whole neighborhood that plays this sport are on the team except for him, he cried all the way home and asked me why his coaches don't like him anymore. It is a draft team so he knows the coaches pick the team.

My kid has lots of friends and it was very painful when this happened. I imagine it must be much worse when your kid has special needs and that is the reason why.

I think the leagues hold some responsibility with this.  If they have 14 kids from one school/neighborhood, and the teams are 12 max, then the league needs to hold firm that the neighborhood kids are split 50/50 or no more than 40/60 so that no one or two kids feel like they are no longer wanted by their school mates or coaches.  That is a cruel thing to do to kids.

OP, I am sorry you are going through this. Coaches, especially rec league coaches or developmental teams need to remember that sportsmanship lessons are about more than just winning.[/quote]

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