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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How was it growing up in your family, OP?   I am also the only daughter with two brothers (mine are younger.)
Growing up, my parents blatantly favored my brothers, especially the youngest.   Things like they got their college fully paid for, I didn't (they both went to private universities out of state, I went to a state school, so it wasn't money.)  My mom even told me that she was intentionally harder on me because "the world is harder on women and I want you to get used to it."
I won't get into all the details and examples, but MUCH more major favoritism in adulthood as well.

To be honest, because of that, when she gets to the point she needs help--my brother can help her if he wants, but I won't.  And if my brother wrote me a letter like the one you wrote, I'd tell him to go to hell.

So I guess my question to you would be, can you honestly say that your mom treated you all equally growing up?  Maybe your brothers harbor some resentment because they perceived you to be a favored child?  Or maybe I'm just projecting.[/quote]

I'm sorry you went through that. Ironically, it's almost the opposite. My dad was an alcoholic and by the time I was in middle school and my brothers were long gone- in graduate school or married- things completely fell apart.  They lost their home, my dad was arrrested, etc. I started working at 14 and got a full ride to an excellent college.  I have always played the role of taking care of my parents in one way or another. To your point, I'm sure all of those patterns are under all of this.  To be fair both of our respective childhoods were rough, just in different ways. [/quote]

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