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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Get him a new school. Please.[/quote]

maybe it's a clever way to get out of going to catholic school?  :)

An 11 year old could be bullied at any school for being gay or for being considered gay.  It's really not an issue until he wants to start dating.  In many ways I don't believe the OP is real b/c, of course, anyone would know Catholic school wouldn't be the best fit for a gay kid.[/quote]

It's totally a troll. No 11 year old has a storied dating past, the "met someone" at camp things dumb (and if the kid just "met" the boy how does mom (not at camp) know the boy? Saying that he has both had girlfriends but also is at an age where "kids get teased if they talk to one another" also doesn't make sense. [/quote]

I'm not a troll you idiot. It was a sports camp so they sort of knew each other through games and tournaments. They didn't become friends until camp though. They will see each other through sports throughout the year so maybe he wanted us to know exactly why he liked his new friend. I didn't know very much about the boy before camp but have met him a few times at this point. Is that OK? I tried not to go into irrelevant details but apparently, you want them. They are not in a relationship nor do I expect them to be in one. It was just the first time my son saw a boy and thought it was someone he liked in that way.

The school stinks. My son doesn't hate it but it's not ideal. We are trying to get him a better option for a few reasons but it didn't work out for this year. Our public school is not an option and another Catholic school isn't going to be better. We didn't want it this way and we will get him out of there. I just have to get through this year. He told me he was gay a few weeks ago - I haven't had a lot of time to figure it all out.

By girlfriends, I mean girls he said he liked and he joked they were his girlfriends since they were girls he liked and they hung out. Since 2nd grade, he mentioned girls he liked and wanted them to be his girlfriends.   I may have made it sound like it was more than it was. I mentioned it to emphasize he seemed very interested in girls up until recently and wanted to hang out with them. Of course, he doesn't date or have a past. But he was interested in girls (or so it seemed).

My question was that despite supporting him, I don't want him to be too honest about something he doesn't need to discuss and then face bullying. 
But if I tell him to be quiet, am I sending a message that there is something wrong with being gay?

And to the person who said to slow down - that is my exact message to my son. He's not going to act on these feelings now so just be a kid and then love the person you love when the time is right.
He is the one who is stressed about defining everything now and wanting to tell everyone he meets that he's gay. I think he feels really free right now.
I think he assumes everyone will be as receptive as we are at home and I know it's not the case and want to protect him (but not shame him).
Whew - I thought I was trying to get help sorting this out. For those who are kind and tried to help - thank you.
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