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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you have any lesbian friends, OP? Sounds like that would help. It can be hard to find other lesbians but I'd bet that,  despite how you describe the male-centric local scene, there are other lesbians out there if you are in a reasonably sized city. Look on Meetup or whatever. Therapist can help provide support in the meantime. Just sounds like you could use more connections with other (gay) people. And yes, dating pool for lesbians can be tough, so focus on friend pool for now maybe. GL![/quote]
I plan on following your advice about finding more LGBT (specifically gay women) friends and have recently started attending therapy. I also have some LGBT friends from college but none live in my current city. Nobody where I live now has given me a legitimately difficult time over being gay but at the same time it can be tough when people don't "get it" and realize that just because gay people can now get married doesn't mean that everything is magically equal. I've also heard "accepting" and "open minded" people I know refer to women as d***s with disdain but obviously I don't count because I have long hair ;) . It's less of a big deal for me to be around a critical mass of LGBT people than it is to be around people who are accepting, don't treat me markedly differently, and don't cry foul if I happen to mention (not obsessively talk about) how coming from an unaccepting environment is still "a thing" in 2017 and how not everyone has wonderful one-and-done coming out experiences that improve their lives forever (even some LGBT people are like this nowadays because they got theirs so it's your problem if you've experienced bigotry).[/quote]

Good plan! It is hard to get started but when I was in a similar spot in my mid-twenties, finding a network of other lesbians definitely helped. LGBT athletic teams, professional groups, meetup groups, etc., all good ways to start. I hear you about not needing gay friends because you can get along fine with open minded straight people, that being gay isn't your only defining feature, etc...yes, same here 100%, but...I think you'll find it's nice when you finally find some local lesbians you connect with. It's comforting to sometimes hang out with people who already understand what you are experiencing without you having to explain. Plus, meeting romantic prospects is additional benefit (the friends of friends network). Things are very likely to improve so hang in there![/quote]

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