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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some tough love here.  You need to take a deep look at yourself.  It's not coming out that is your problem.  Being gay has some challenges, but in a large city in 2017 if you aren't happy it isn't because you came out; it's something else and you a redirecting.[/quote]
Or maybe I'm sick of having damaged relationships with my family, relatives, and people I was friends with growing up who never came around. Maybe I'm sick of often dealing with microaggressions and subtle stereotyping after thinking "maybe it'll be different this time." Maybe I'm sick of having a lackluster dating pool in a big but not NYC or San Fran level city where the entire gay scene revolves around men. Maybe I'm sick of feeling like coming out was all for nothing in a lot of my experiences that people like to pretend don't happen anymore or haven't since the 1950s. Things may be better now, but coming out certainly hasn't overwhelmingly brought me joy and I've basically hit a wall where I just avoid doing it now. I could ramble for ages (I promise I'm not always such a barrel of laughs :P ) but ultimately I feel like I had a lot of highly damaging and frankly abusive coming out experiences in my youth, still find that people aren't perfect, and in many ways feel like there just isn't a place for me in today's LGBT community where everyone seems to have accepting parents and their own expectations for what you should be like if you're gay. [/quote]

Ahhhh, I see your problem. You are hoping your family, relatives, and people you were friends with growing up will be your supportive community. I'm sorry, but they won't. Stop trying with them. Find new people. Sometimes your family is the people you come from, and sometimes friends become your new family.  [/quote]

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