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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]adult or teen?
I am having this trouble where family speaks to me like an idiot in public. That discourse became a habit when I was a very insecure teen and young adult. 
Strangely, I am still insecure, but confident or really just brave and have done well professionally. They dismiss my success as luck and still look down at me. Some actually "demand' money from me when they need it.
This came to light when coworkers pointed out that they noticed a bizarre relationship between myself and some siblings. 
It is easy to keep my relatives away from co workers, but not so easy to keep them away from my kids. [/quote]

You don't act different, so they don't act different,
 You fall into the same pattern and expected role when you are with them.

Speak up when someone treats you poorly. Learn to call them out on it firmly. Cut off people mid sentence if they are trying to guilt trip you by telling them laughing at their nonsense. Learn to walk away from conversations you are not interested in.
Don't share too much info.
Don't answer rude questions.
Ask rude questions of those who are rude to you.
Greet the person first loudly and with over enthusiasm, don't let them speak, and then walk away.

It's all the very little things that you do in these situations that add up. They make you feel more secure and they send a signal to the other person that ther had been a shift.

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