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[quote=Anonymous]Ok so I gained 30 lbs over last 18 months and am unhappy with my weight.    I have lost about 8 so far and its been somewhat up and down for me.  5 down, then 2 up, 5 more down, etc.   I definitely lost some confidence and was "depressed" about it.   I went to therapy over other life issues and came to realize that I was depressed in the clinical sense.  I was eating a lot from stress.  So I'd say maybe the key is for your wife to get to the core of the reason behind the gain.  I went to my dr had my thyroid checked etc. and finally decided to try Wellbutrin.  It's been amazing.  I am feeling better, and for me a side effect is less hunger (it has some stimulant impacts).

What my husband did that helped me:

1. Never judged me
2. Kept up with healthy habits himself (running, etc) It made me inspired to be more fit too.
3. Cooked three days a week healthy dinners.   
3.  Listened to me without interjecting what I should do.   I knew what I should do.  I needed a friend to support me tell me I have this and to celebrate small successes.  
4.  Made me feel beautiful no matter what.

Maybe you need to be more like a true friend to her. If she is telling you how down she about it, try to reframe her comments so she knows you "got" her message, this also works for her to perhaps see more clearly how negative she is being.

Good luck 
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