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[quote=Anonymous]My sister would probably say that I'm the one icing her out.  Truth is, I just decided that I won't put in any more effort.  My sister isn't nasty or outright mean, she's just extremely self involved.  She calls, visits, interacts, is friendly, etc. when she needs something.  And it doesn't have to be something concrete - but if she's lonely, bored, doesn't have anything else going on she acts like we're the best of friends and the closest of sisters.

The minute something is going on in her life, she can't be bothered with me.  If I initiate and ask to interact I am dismissed.  It doesn't seem like it's a big deal, but when it happens over and over again, it does something to my psyche.  I go from feeling valued and important in her life to being a throw-away.  And I feel rejected because of it.  it's a different feeling than if you have a back-and-forth rapport with someone who once in a while doesn't have time for you.

Because of that, I decided a few months ago to make my relationship with her more like an acquaintance.  It's a way for me to manage my own emotions.  I don't even look at her like a sister anymore - just someone I know.  If she reaches out then sure, I'll see her if I have time and have nothing else going on, but I'm not going to reach out to her or make any extra effort to maintain a relationship.

OP, not saying that's how you are, but there might be something else going on that you don't realize that put her in the same mindset that I'm at.   [/quote]

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