Reply to Reckless with money during divorce

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Reckless with money during divorce"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/629536.page#10604711 More at the link than 2 quotes below

[quote=Anonymous]My brother dated my SIL for 5 years and they have been married for 10. He had an affair and they are now divorcing. I haven't spoken to either of them (have texted with both) but it sounds like things are pretty nasty. My brother behaved poorly, but now she is too (spending all their savings a lot of which was an inheritance my brother brought to the marriage; causing him to lose his business by going after his share; limiting my family's access to their child...). It's all just really sad.

I have a newborn who I feel won't know her aunt and will have limited access to her cousin. I also used to talk with SIL about so many things. She just unfriended me on Facebook so clearly is distancing herself.

I want to reach out but think that's probably selfish. Also I'm mad at both of them and know being mad at her is unproductive. Do I just accept she's not really in my life anymore and my DD won't have a relationship with her aunt and cousin? I don't even know what I want by reaching out ... mostly I'm curious what SIL wants / why she's cut all of us off but I doubt I could ask in a neutral way and doubt she'd tell me if she took my call. Will time heal wounds or is she out of my life?[/quote]

[quote]Op here. I called her / spoke to her quite a bit when this all first happened (this fall). Then she stopped taking my calls as much so I would text her to say I was here when she wanted, that I missed her etc. Our children would still skype after that but that's stopped too. I don't want to force myself on her and I also gave birth a few weeks ago. Still, part of why I came on here is to see if I should call?

Since we last spoke my brother was forced out of his business. My understanding is that she wanted half his partnership and wouldn't take a buyout and the other partners weren't open to that and forced him out when she wouldn't agree to a different settlement. I don't really know since I haven't spoken to my brother since this all happened and I haven't spoken to my SIL in a few months. And now my newest understanding is he cannot take his son overnight until the divorce is finalized (which could be awhile) which means he can't visit us and if we visit my family it's up to SIL whether we can go to her house and see her / my nephew. It will be awhile anyway since we're on opposite sides of the country and we have a newborn.[quote]
[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics