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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi OP. I hear you from the other side of the mirror here. I think I'm quite kinky/adventurous with a high libido, whereas my husband is a self-professed straight-up vanilla with a more moderate libido. I can sympathize firsthand how difficult and awkward it can be to bring up what you're hoping to, especially considering you guys are already having regular sex and she sounds satisfied with it. It's a vulnerable and anxious place to be, to be asking for a change in the status quo, especially on such a sensitive and private topic that really requires fully consensual participation from both parties.

One of the best things I ever did for myself on this issue is to do a bit of reading -- specifically, this book (https://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Intelligence-What-Really-Sex/dp/0062026070/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1500322168&sr=8-1&keywords=sexual+intelligence). It helped me get to the bottom of what I was trying to say and explain the essence of why I wanted our sex life to be more fun and adventurous rather than awkward explain the tactical side of things (ie what positions I'd like to try, etc). I think it helped the husband understand why I was pushing him to come a bit more out of his shell (which is a big ask for someone who is guarded or has high self-consciousness).

Things haven't changed drastically for me since reading the book, but I do feel much more validated in my desires, and that helps. It's not just about being a kinky creep -- knowing that for myself helps me feel better about it when it comes to engaging with the husband on it.

Good luck! [/quote]

Thanks for the book advice.  It is a weird question I've asked.  Sex is frequent and good.  I just feel like I can tell you the process from beginning to end.  She likes to follow the same script and not vary from it.  We will do A, then B, then C, then D, then E, then we are done.  Each and every time.  I'm not wanting to get crazy.  I just might want to do A, then B, then E, then D, then C, sometimes.  It's in a different order.  And maybe sometimes thrown in a J or a K.

She wants it several times a week, but loves the routine.  The very limited routine.[/quote]

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