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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He has also mentioned that my parents should come live in the neighborhood too. My mom wants to retire and go back to the country our family comes from (in a tropical area). I love his family, but I feel like none of them do anything without consulting the family unit.[/quote]

I think that you need to really consider what living near his family would mean for YOUR family (e.g., you, your husband, and the children I assume you'll have in the future). My best friend lives in the same neighborhood as her in-laws. The good side is that they are a 5 minute walk/2 minute drive away if there is ever a childcare emergency (for example when she went into labor with her 3rd baby at 5am and needed to leave for the hospital ASAP). The bad side is that it really makes it easier for her in-laws to just drop by whenever they want, without calling. For a while, her MIL had a key to the house, and getting it back so that she wouldn't just let herself in whenever she wanted was a real stressor. It also sets up expectations of how regularly family will congregate. Maybe you would be okay with Sunday night family dinners with his entire extended family. Maybe not. My friend isn't. Her MIL has really strong opinions about parenting and has been trying to impose them on my friend since her first was a baby (he's 10 now). She's more or less taken it in stride ("No, MIL, you can't give Davey rice cereal at 2 months, that's not what we agreed") but it's not an insignificant hassle for them because it comes up every week in some form or another.[/quote]

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