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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow.  Men really are pieces of garbage, aren't they [/quote]

PP. They aren't garbage, but they aren't equipped as caregivers.

I would also bet that there is infideility involved.[/quote]

As "equipped as caregivers"?  What is genetically wrong with men that makes them unable to care for another human being?

If what you say is true men should never be given any kind of custody of children as it poses a great risk to the child involved. [/quote]

There is nothing genetically wrong with them. There are innate and societal differences.[/quote]

No, this is no excuse.

And I think you're wrong anyhow.  I don't think men divorce in this situation because they feel inadequate as caretakers.  I think they divorce because they think they can find a younger and/or healthier woman and not have to deal with it.

I do think that men have an expectation that women will handle all of the mundane *stuff* of life (housekeeping, caretaking, etc.) along with be available for sex.  If it seems the woman isn't able to do those things, instead of stepping up, the man looks to leave -- unless he suspects he'll get screwed in alimony/child support.

And sadly, even the "family values" Christian right set tend to forgive men for infidelity and divorce.[/quote]

Did you not read my post? I think there is infidelity involved as well, because the wife is too sick/tired/etc to meet the husband's sexual needs.

And I don't think men seek the divorce in these situations: I believe women do either a) because he is cheating, or b) because she realizes he is not equipped for caretaking, and is actually making her life harder.

I have MS and recently divorced, because I was working FT, keeping the house, and doing all the childcare activities in top of my illness while my husband pursued his childhood dreams of becoming a professional athlete (at age 42). He couldn't understand why I would dare ask him to clean up after himself, do a school drop off so I could make an early-morning doctor's appointment, or why I wanted to sleep instead of have sex at 10 pm. Something had to give, and it couldn't be my health, my job, or my child.

However, even though he was a horrible partner and caregiver, I do not feel that he is endangering my child on weekends he has custody. Does my kid watch too much TV and eat too many chicken nuggets on those weekends? Probably. But I trust my child will be returned to me on Monday, tired and hyper, but alive. I can use those weekends to care for myself: I get sleep, I exercise, I don't run myself down. I am doing better, health-wise than I have in a long time.[/quote]

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