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[quote=Anonymous]It's weird. It didn't affect my life, but I it did affect me emotionally. I don't really care whose house we go to or who takes who to the doctor. The emotional part though...It's like I lost some sort of innocence about my relationship with them and theirs with me. I had been hoping all my life they'd some day be adults and I gave up on that when they separated. I realized I was more an adult than they were--it had been that way my whole life. I think this is due to the multiple affairs and all the lying and alcohol and leaving and coming back. Completely chaotic childhood.

Then guess what. They got back together after 5 years of separation. They're so messed up it's hard to be in the same room with them.

This is probably incoherent and doesn't apply to whatever the situation the op is asking about obviously. It's not like my parents were in love and blissful and then one day "poof". If there is divorce after all those years, it seems reasonable to conclude there was dysfunction for a long long time.

So yes, my life is not affected so much because I chose to withdraw from the toxicity and set huge boundaries about how I would relate to them. My brother who is more engaged is actively trying to make everything ok and make everyone better. I did that for a long time and have let the baton pass to him. 
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