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[quote=Anonymous][quote]I am a high drive W with a lower than average drive H.

Here's how I define it: H doesn't act like he thinks about sex at all between sessions. No sexting, no flirting in person, no ass grabbing, no explicit comments. Very early in our relationship, told me he didn't see the point in kissing more than a peck or making out if it didn't lead to orgasm. Just not a sensual person. Can easily go a week between orgasms. Always happy with a quickie, never tries to extend. Never tries new positions. Can't tell my real vs. fake orgasms.

As a woman, I feel that I am higher drive than normal because if I had a willing partner, I'd be happy with four or five times a week, a couple of them long. I think about sex many times a day. I fantasize, I self pleasure. I would like to push the kink envelope. I have spontaneous, not responsive, desire.[/quote]

NP here in very similar situation. What has happened, over the years, is that my drive has lessened because sex is pretty boring/routine. I tried for a long time to push the envelope, communicate to DH that sex begins long before the lights go out (or whatever), that for me it is mental, is is flirting, it is planning, it is trying new things. But he's uncomfortable with all of that. For hi m its like a light switch: it goes on, he wants sex, he's done, it goes off. That being said, he does try to please me in bed--its just that there's a lot he is uncomfortable trying/doing and he never acts sexual outside of the bedroom.

with my previous two partners, i was having sex daily, multiple times a day. I know that's not sustainable with kids, marriage, etc, but damn, it was good. [/quote]

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