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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I mentioned this on another post, and I'm sure it isn't original to me, but I think even a relatively small difference in drives creates a self-reinforcing process that exacerbates those differences into something more significant over the years.

High drive gets rejected, feels anxious about the amount of sex they're having, starts fixating on sex, pushes harder, and feels rejection even more keenly.

Low drive feels pressured which results in even less desire, rejects more frequently which leads to an increase in feelings of pressure, less desire, etc. [/quote]

Or what happened in my case is that I tried to increase the frequency, the quality went down and sex ended up being something we both did to be polite and keep the marriage going. He thinks I'm too uptight in bed but won't try anything new, and won't do what I told him I'd like.  Anyway, what helped is that I backed off completely and let him decide when he wants it. It doesn't help with my needs for variety and greater frequency, but at least the times we are together are a bit better.[/quote]

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