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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you can take it to court but the judge will probably just tell her to send the kids and no consequences when she does not or at least that was our experience.  Judge ordered her to pay a higher cost of the plane tickets but she never paid anything.  All they care is if you are paying child support.  Take it to court once and then give up, sad to say, but she isn't going to budge and there are only a few rare judges who will hold up father's rights and the reality of you getting a good and reasonable judge is slim.  Mom will come up with all kinds of accusations against you and despite not being able to prove them, nothing will change.

My husband gave up when his youngest was 14.  He cut them off when that child was 18 financially and moved on.  We hear from them or his ex on a rare occasion.  Sadly, my husband would prefer not to hear from them after[b] how they treated him[/b].[/quote]

How they treated him?  The kids were just victims of their mother. Can you blame them for giving up?  After all it's what they learned from dear old dad.  Men go after what they want relentlessly. Your husband simply wasn't that interested in being a father to them.

I don't know how you can stand to be involved with someone who just gave up on his kids.[/quote]

After multiple expensive court battles where judge gave visitation and mom refused it and judge did nothing, what is someone supposed to do?  Oldest two were over 18, youngest was 14 at the time.  They only contacted him for money beyond child support which they claimed mom never received each month (which was a lie).  If the courts will not uphold the orders or change custody, then what do you do when you call every day and no one answers the phone, when you fly out cross country to get your kids after mom does not put them on the plane and mom refuses and cops refuse to get involved.  So, you spend more money going to court on attorneys and air fare multiple times and nothing changes.  Yes, at some point you give up, especially after 8 years of the crap.  They are a victim but there is no excuse for them to scream and yell at their Dad and make accusations that never happened, especially when mom was the abusive one and had two kids who were not hers removed from her care.  So, yes, when they call us demanding money as adults, you do give up and say no.  When you ask them to disclose what scholarships and loans and grades in order to get financial help from Dad and they refuse demanding a check for thousands, yes, you say no and stop the back and forth.  When they refuse to visit and yet demand plane tickets (that they choose to use for something else as they are adults and in their name), yes, you stop buying them (or what we have done is say pay them and we'll reimburse you when you are here)...... yes, at some point after so many years you do stop being interested.  He was a very active father till she cheated on him, moved the kids cross country and refused contact.  How can he be an active father if he is denied contact and the courts are a joke?

[b]Clearly you are a mom who took the kids and played games so you can then complain about the deadbeat uninterested Dad.
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His ex-wife did me a huge favor.  [b]I got a great husband and father for my kids out of the deal. [/b] I think she knows it too as she emails regularly and is annoyed at how well he/we are doing which he never could have achieved with her... if she only knew now how much he made.[/quote]

No sweetheart I'm the wife of a man whose father just threw him away because it was easier. As for his now adult kids you reap what you sow. How do you thnk they'll turn out when you abandon them to an abusive parent?

Great father? Denial is strong with you. Just don't get divorced.[/quote]

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