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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think continuing to make suggestions about covering it is counterproductive and may make her self-conscious.  Don't let her think you are ashamed of the scar or think it needs to be hidden.  There will be time enough for that when she cares about it.[/quote]

+1  I'm the PP with the cleft-lip repair scar.  My parents never made an issue of it and I think that helped me never make an issue of it.  Also, don't assume she'll be teased for it -- I was teased for other things but never for my scar.  It just is what it is.[/quote]

OP here. Again, thanks for the feedback. Because of our experience with the surgery and normal hairstyling, I'm pretty aware of all the options available, but, to the best of my memory, I'e never brought it up to DD. I just get a lot of hair suggestions from relatives. I don't think people who haven't dealt with a scalp scar realize how tricky the hair issue can be (just like I'm sure I have a very limited understanding of a facial scar as compared to a scalp scar)

DD used to be very curious about the surgery and why she has the scar, so the story has come up, but, in those cases, maybe a total of three or four conversations in the past 3 years, she's always declined to see a doctor again. I can honestly say I  don't even think about it when I see her, I'm so used to it.

DD is really so bright and confident, in that fabulous 8 year old way before puberty hits, that I was a bit saddened when she expressed stress at the way classmates were talking about her hair. It sounded like curiosity rather than bullying, but it obviously bothered her. This thing with the hat is brand new. I mean, she's always loved putting outfits together and making funky fashion choices (shorts with leggings during the winter or two different socks), but this 24 hour hat thing is new. We just got the weekly photos from camp, so it was kind of a surprise. [/quote]

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