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[quote=Anonymous]Do not bring a child into a relationship that lacks the  fundamental ability to have a discussion.

Talk to him. If one of you is ready to try for a child and the other is not, then frankly, "not" wins every time. This is a new life you're both considering here. Get couples counseling immediately and tell him your fears about having a child. You also need to figure out why you are so reluctant to tell him your real feelings about something so vital. There may be larger trust and communication issues that must get resolved BEFORE you even try getting pregnant, if you end up trying at all. Professional help, now.

If he balks about counseling and/or he pressures you along lines of, "Once we have a baby you'll be fine with the baby/the finances will work themselves out/we'll figure it out as we go along" -- those are red flags that he's not seeing things realistically and is not actually ready to be a parent even if he insists he is ready. Counseling or therapy should help him determine why he feels so set on having a child right now and whether he is indeed being too rosy about what parenthood will be like. He might even feel that a child would fix problems in your relationship that you don't see but he feels are there.

Your deception about the pill means you're scared to talk to the person who should be the easiest person to talk to in your whole world. That's you own red flag.

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