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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here thanks - yes, I don't try to do much talking after the first minute or two (sometimes I can divert the freak out).  It's just exhausting.  Hello, [b]how can I control the date on a quarter? I can't[/b].  No one can.  If *that's* the cause of a meltdown then I feel like I have no hope of peace and predictability.  I totally get that kids freak out over little stuff, I have two other LO's.  It's just so much more frequent, intense and random.  It's also not age-appropriate like it would be for a toddler.  We get anger outbursts over the cap on the milk being blue instead of red (um, it's never been red??)  We've tried a few other meds and the current one actually does seem to be the best but it doesn't cover 24/7.[/quote]

OP, can you enroll your kid in a social skills program like Unstuck and On Target?  Our kid with ADHD took it at Ivymount on a Saturday, which I found very helpful b/c it had a concurrent parenting class.  Or at least get the paperback; it's a quick read:
https://www.amazon.com/Solving-Executive-Function-Challenges-Unstuck/dp/1598576038/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1496153336&sr=8-2&keywords=unstuck+and+on+target

The program was developed with kids who have ASD, however, the executive functioning issues cut across ADHD or other LDs.  At it's core, it's about problem solving.

--The quarter had a date on it which was different from what your kid [b]expected[/b].  
--Is this a big or little deal?  If a little deal, noting it and moving on. 
--It was a big deal to him.  He became upset and stuck in this loop becoming more disregulated and couldn't move on.
--If it's a big deal (to him), then let's make a Plan B.  (problem solving)
--Sometimes problems can be resolved through compromise and having choices.  He can brainstorm choices for his plan, e.g.,  look for another quarter, wait until a quarter comes along with the "correct" date.  (Sometimes there is no choice, e.g, a fire drill--there's no choice.)
--  In this case, having a quarter with the "right" date, may not be solvable at the moment by making a Plan B.  He still has a choice as to how to feel about and react to the situation.  Recognizing that something was "unexpected" helps kids develop perspective.

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