Reply to 7 and 5 year old. Would you have another one in my situation?

Forum Index » General Parenting Discussion

Reply to "7 and 5 year old. Would you have another one in my situation?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So we have two boys who are 5 and 7. My husband and I have a great marriage. We are financially stable. Part of me is so glad to be out of the baby/toddler stage but the other part of me can't shake he feeling that we need one more.

I was looking forward to making some bigger trips in the next couple years as a family (maybe Europe) but obviously we couldn't do that type of stuff with a baby.

This feeling just won't go away and I feel like if we don't have one we are going to regret it.

For the record, my husband wants another one even more than me I think.

I just really don't know if I can do the baby stage again. My children were terrible sleepers and didn't sleep through the night until around two years old.

Thoughts? Is it too large of an age gap?[/quote]

First of all, I traveled a fair amount with a baby. She was a decent sleeper, and it definitely changed the way we traveled, but you can still go to Europe with a baby. I did at 4, 12 and 17 months!

If you feel like you'll regret not having a 3rd child, game out what life looks like for you with a 3rd child. Imagine scenarios in which your child is a good sleeper and scenarios in which your child is a terrible sleeper.

I am pregnant with my second. My first is 7. There have definitely been times during this pregnancy when I've thought that I must be crazy to dive into the rabbit hole again, since DD1 is now at the point where she can do things like deal with her own toilet stuff, get dressed for school on her own, and even to an extent acquire/make her own food. Yesterday for Mother's Day, for example, I took a bath and she reheated something for herself for lunch in the microwave. That would never have happened 2 years ago, and I would not even have been able to imagine it 4 years ago. When I feel overwhelmed by the newborn phase coming back, I remind myself that, at the very least, I have an older child who CAN take care of her own business in a lot of ways, so it's not like I'm doubling my already too-heavy workload.

At the end of the day, if you want it, then go for it![/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics