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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is a tendency in families to see patterns when a family member is newly diagnosed.  I've seen this in my own family.

The fact that you are or were socially awkward and have a tendency toward repetitive motion does not make you a person with ASD, OP.  That's way too simplistic and really kind of an obnoxious way of looking at ASD.  It's as if you were just diagnosed with arthritis and I said to you "Oh, I sometimes feel achy in the morning too!  I must have arthritis!"[/quote]

It's also kind of obnoxious not to put some trust in a person's intuition about himself. When it became clear our son might have Asperger's, both my husband and myself were quick to think maybe my husband has it too. It can be a very helpful realization to have, and [b]I'm sure OP wasn't basing it just on a couple things. (why should he explain ALL his reflections on it?) [/b]

OP, I don't think you need to talk directly about your son's risk of his own child having it. I do think it's perfectly appropriate for you to talk about your own thoughts about yourself. You would need to check with your daughter and her son if it's okay to talk about your grandson's diagnosis. Or perhaps your daughter would like to talk to her brother about that herself. In any case, it's perfectly appropriate for anyone to talk about their own psychology with friends and family. I think it could be very helpful for your son to learn your thoughts about yourself, in terms of understanding you, and your relationship with him, and his upbringing. Perhaps it could improve understanding between you. It could also be helpful for the family to know your grandson's diagnosis, in order to have a better relationship with him. But you need to talk to your daughter about how they are handling that. [/quote]

Why?  Why are you so sure when dozens of posters on the Special Needs Forum do just that -- base their presumption of autism on just a couple of things.[/quote]

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