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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]An ex colleague placed her 9yo dd for adoption. The reason she gave me (we were cubemates) is that her dd was annoying. The state made her pay child support until the little girl was adopted (at 11.5).[/quote]

This is beyond awful.  I have a nine year old and yes, she can be annoying sometime, but to give her up for adoption?? I can't even imagine..  That kid is going to have serious issues.  Nothing like your mom throwing you away to make you feel good about yourself  :( [/quote]

I know someone who adopted a child at birth due to infertility and then gave her to children's services when she was 11. They referred to it as a failed adoption. The reality was that a year after the adoption they got pregnant and had another little girl - basically the baby they had wanted all those years of trying. I think they were always a little resentful of the first adopted daughter as she was a harder child to parent and was not the favorite - making her act out even more. As she became a tween she was even more difficult, argued a lot, fought with her sister etc.

I always wondered how they explained this to extended family and friends when suddenly they went from 2 kids to 1. And for the remaining daughter who lost her sister, hard to process.

Just to add to the horror of it all, one of the parents was a family therapist.[/quote]

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