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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think DC sucks for dating period, it's not about weight. I know plenty of dream women who've been single for 8 years now. It's kinda insane. [/quote]

Is that still the case?  I know it was back when I was single in the 90s.  Sometimes I think I settled because of it :([/quote]

Based on my anecdotal evidence watching friends, I think so. One of my friends is GORGEOUS, like stops men in their tracks gorgeous. I've never seen a woman get so many looks from men and women before. She's skinny, too. She's smart, has an MA, has a great job and drives an amazing luxury car. No debt. She's very picky about men so I'm sure that plays a role, but, even s[i]he [/i]has a hard time with the dating pool in DC and has been single for the majority of the time I've known her, which is about 10 years now. I know at least 4 other women who are similar to her but not as gorgeous yet quite beautiful and they are all single. No lack of meetups, dating apps, etc. The dating pool seems to stink. None of my married friends met their SO in DC, now that I think about it. [/quote]

NP here.  I have an attractive friend who has always been single.  She thinks the dating pool is difficult here.  But it's definitely that she is very picky.  By "picky" I mean that she won't even take the time to get to know someone if they don't hit all of the boxes.

I didn't settle.  And I don't think any woman should settle.  But I do think that some women don't even let themselves get to know men before ruling them out.  Men do it too.

To OP, I'm a woman, but I think some men prefer thin and some men actually prefer curvy.  I think perhaps the geeky guys your friend focuses on probably have watched too many '80s movies and think that they are entitled to someone who looks like a model.

But on a serious note, my advice to your friend is that she is focuses too much on a "type" of guy.  It seems like that "type" of guy tends not to be into her, so she really needs to widen her net and give other types of guys (and perhaps guys from other cultural backgrounds) a chance.

My attractive friend who has always been single also has a "type" of guy that she goes for.  It's obvious to everyone but her that that "type" of guy will never go for her (even though she's physically gorgeous and smart and professionally successful).  I won't go into the reasons, but it seems clear that "type" of guy isn't into the "type" she is beyond friendship/hooking up.

Your friend doesn't need to move as much as she needs to change the "type" she focuses on.

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