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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You call him your husband.  That's what he is.  You can't say you're separated, because you haven't filed for separation.

If I were dating a guy, and I later found out he was still married while we were dating and had lied to me about being separated, that would be the end of our relationship.

I don't know what you are fighting about in court with your current husband, but it's sort of irrelevant.  He's your husband until you make a legal move otherwise.

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Uh, if they're not living together, they are separated. It doesn't take a filing to make it so.  OP just isn't 'legally' separated.  I have no idea what your second sentence means.  Any person who is separated is STILL married.  It sounds like you don't date people who haven't divorced but who knows - or cares.[/quote]

Because a separation that hasn't been filed for isn't really a sign of an end of a relationship. If a guy tells me they are separated but he hasn't gotten around to filing...I would end the relationship too as that says to me he is a married man trying to figure out if he wants to stay married or not. I don't want a relationship with someone who is marreid but tryng out single life to see what they like better.[/quote]

I think that's not necessarily true. First, in MD, legal separation does not involve paperwork. It just involves living apart and no sex. To get divorced, you don't need to have filed some kind of separation paperwork. At least that's my understanding. In terms of divorce itself, there can be a lot of reasons to not get divorced. Everybody has their own deal, and while it can be riskier to date someone who's separated, it doesn't automatically mean they still have emotional connection to their ex. But I do agree that total honesty is important if you're dating and separated. 
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