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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did you try and give him an opportunity to earn it? My teen got inherited invited on a ski trip once and the lift tickets were going to cost about 600 dollars. We had 17 days notice.  He worked off the majority of the money in 2 weeks.  I paid him 10 bucks an hour.  I had him paint my moms basement, take off my kitchen hardware and replace it with more modern stuff, he painted our garage door, and then did 2- 4 hour visits at the food bank.  I left him work off the rest of it when he got home.  He can be lazy but he wanted to go and it was a good lesson to me not to underestimate him. [/quote]

Of course we gave him the opportunity to [i]earn[/i] it. He's been excited for spring break for months and I told him I'd send him with friends if he played a sport, volunteer, job, something after school. All of his friends are super involved, he just comes home and sits on his butt until they're done. He didn't want to get off his ass, so he's not getting $1000 from us.[/quote]

You know, some kids just aren't inclined to be that athlete volunteer, etc. As a parent, you should make opportunities for him and set expectations for his behavior (i.e. going into the activity with a good attitude).  Now you are punishing him for what is likely inherent to his personality.  I think that stinks.  My son sounds a lot like yours - but instead of making him feel like we dislike him for who he is, we have him choose an activity he must do (for his health, his mind, or what have you.). [/quote]

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