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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did you try and give him an opportunity to earn it? My teen got inherited invited on a ski trip once and the lift tickets were going to cost about 600 dollars. We had 17 days notice.  He worked off the majority of the money in 2 weeks.  I paid him 10 bucks an hour.  I had him paint my moms basement, take off my kitchen hardware and replace it with more modern stuff, he painted our garage door, and then did 2- 4 hour visits at the food bank.  I left him work off the rest of it when he got home.  He can be lazy but he wanted to go and it was a good lesson to me not to underestimate him. [/quote]

Of course we gave him the opportunity to [i]earn[/i] it. He's been excited for spring break for months and I told him I'd send him with friends if he played a sport, volunteer, job, something after school. All of his friends are super involved, he just comes home and sits on his butt until they're done. He didn't want to get off his ass, so he's not getting $1000 from us.[/quote]

That makes sense- my kid is younger, but I think the same principle applies. You set the expectations and the outcome. He didn't meet the expectations, and now he is dealing with the outcome. I agree with your decision. It may not be about "what he learns from this experience" right now. It's a life lesson - if you're not appreciative, hardworking, and responsible then you often don't get what you want. It can take many years for that to sink in.

I would disagree with your decision if you had not set up expectations in advance. There is a difference between a logical outcome vs. pulling the rug out. [/quote]

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