Reply to Feeling guilty about treatment towards ex SIL

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Feeling guilty about treatment towards ex SIL"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My brother and his now ex wife just recently got divorced. My brother cheated on her so his wife left him and rightfully so. Ever since they separated, I've been giving her the cold shoulder. On one hand, I understand why she left him, but on the other hand, I resent the fact that my young niece now has a broken home. I feel like the ex didn't try to make things work (refused counseling) and gave up. I'm feeling guilty for treating her the way I have been and I'm wondering if I should reach out to her. Even if it's to let her know there's no hard feelings.[/quote]

Im an ex SIL who was given the cold shoulder. Her brother was abusive and noone listened to me or cared to know the truth. And now I am treated like I never existed after 22 years of marriage and even longer of knowing the family.

Dont reach out to her if you are going to try to guilt trip her about not trying hard enough. Your brother probably did more than he ever told you. Their relationship dynamic has nothing to do with you. Youhave no right to judge her or resent anyone except maybe your brother. but of course, your resentment helps noone.

If you can call her and be honest and say you feel guilty for being a little shitty and have put your feelings in perspective then sure. But if this reaching out would be all about YOU then please, just swallow your guilt pill and let her heal.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics