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Pretty common situation.  Guys do not plan much at any age, but particularly in the middle school - early high school stages.  Transport is difficult - no one drives and having mom/dad around is not great.  What to do?  Where to go? all are issues.

But -- think about what you have around you that is fairly easy to drop off and pick up, AND do something at.  Movies in a mall for example -- go grab something to eat before or after?  Bowling?  Whatever else sounds okay.  Then work with him on how to actually put out an invite.  Kids communicate via text.  So -- help him figure out who to text and what to say in it.  It may not seem like rocket science, but it is a skill that everyone needs to work on to learn.  Help your kid learn how to do it.  He will complain of course, but brush off the complaints and actually get an invite out there.  Work through his contact numbers -- get a group contact going.  Not everyone has to go.  Rides will be needed in all likelihood so plan your own timing.  Your kid can put together several different groups of varying sizes.

My now oldest has about 6 group chats.  The regular guys.  Guys from soccer.  Guys/Girls who he eats lunch with.  Guys/Girls from Class X.  Guys/Girls from Class Y.  Guys plus his girlfriend (odd group buy his girlfriend is one of those who is better with guys than girls).  You have to keep straight who is which group, but get the groups put together and get him to find away to regularly communicate with them.  Then it will not seem so bad to say -- "staying after school for XYZ - anyone else up for that?"  "Need a bowling fix -- anyone else?"  Make sure he clears timing with you if your are the driver.

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