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[quote=Anonymous]The thing is, not inviting her to the wedding is pretty much an official cut-off of the relationship.  Cutting her off may be the right thing to do; but sometimes it takes a while to getting to that point.

And a cut-off that is precipitated by something so symbolic as a wedding is likely to be MUCH more dramatic and difficult to manage than doing it in a way where you can be more calm and more sure about yourself.  It's going to muddy the waters because now SHE can claim that you are the awful one and make it all about her and the offenses you have committed.

Also, a complete cut off with your mom might not be the way you want to go anyway, since you seem to still want to be able to have a relationship with your dad and siblings who still live with her.

So I think you really only have 2 choices:  invite your mom, but work HARD to maintain good boundaries and not let her ruin things (like, have a deputized Mom Manager who ensures that she doesn't wreck things).  Or, elope.  [/quote]

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