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[quote=Anonymous]I used to be abusive. It took years of therapy for me to realize 1) I repeated the cycle as I grew up ion a home with it 2) I had to work very hard to change habits and 3) as an abuser, I attracted an abuser and my XH contributed to the cycle. Ultimately I ended up leaving, but my depression revealed my abusive behavior. It also became revealed that my behavior was in response to abuse from him. Not saying this is the case with all circumstances, but in mine, it was a reaction to abuse, a history of abuse, and a familiarity and comfort with the patterns of abuse. I took full responsibility, accountability and consequence for my previous mistakes; and never went back. We divorced because he wasn't willing to do his work. Also, it was very clear that behavior was abusive as a woman, I owned it. It is much more tolerable by society however, the idea of me being abusive vs. a male.[/quote]
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