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[quote=Anonymous]I think we all hope to be able to relate to our children. These feelings are normal. 
Perhaps a high achievement and nurturing perhaps has created expectations (before your child was born) about how you would be able to relate what you wanted your child to accomplish.

Again, I think it's normal for high achievers especially to have significant expectations of their children.

I don't know if that sound elitist--it's just what I observe in myself and in my friends when it comes to our children.

It has helped me a lot to step back and realize that "my people" are parents of children with special needs. My son has ADHD and learning issues-- talking and befriending other parents who are dealing with similar diagnoses had helped my mindset *a lot.*

The last thing is that you may find over time that you step back from how well you "relate" to your child and instead, focus on what you can learn from them. I can tell you, I was not a terribly compassionate, nonjudgmental person until I had my son. I am so much more empathetic to other people now-- I have made friendships that I would not have made and I see things so much more clearly. I'm a nicer person.[/quote]

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