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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Before you decide to stay together "for the kids," remember that he will eventually begin to treat them this way as well.

Growing up that way turns that constant criticism into your mental sound track and your kids will internalize and criticize themselves even in his absence.   [/quote]

My mom did this my whole life and it seriously affected me.  I find it difficult to pursue ideas/goals for fear of getting it wrong or making mistakes or I see all the potential problems.  I chose relationships with men that mimicked this critical voice and both my major relationships turned abusive, one physical and one emotional.

It's crippling to live in and grow up in this environment.

I would start to give more "real" answers:

Why didn't I wash the cup?:

because I don't think neatness is as important as you do.
because I view us as partners and I believe you're as capable of washing a cup as I am.
because I was more focused on connecting interpersonally with our children than presenting a perfect home

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