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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, I think it's fine to do this. But, I am having an issue with a friend who typically invites my older child to things and excludes the younger one who is exactly one year younger. We used to be neighbors and I am close with the mom. My younger daughter thinks of herself as friends with the neighbor, even though she is in the grade below the neighbor and my older daughter. My girls have recently switched schools, so now no one is in the same class. She called to ask about dates for her daughter'a upcoming party yesterday and I said I vaguely recalled that one of the girls might have another party. I checked my email after the call and realized I was imagining things, so I texted and said they are both free and I would greatly appreciate your including my younger daughter. She wants the moms to hang out during the party. I never heard back from her, and I think she's probably miffed. She has been strangely exclusive in the past and I have tried to explain that it causes a lot of problems (younger daughter upset, logistical issues for me). Literally my girls are one year (12 months) apart in age-this is not a toddler I'm pushing on her, and she has played over at their house countless times. Anyway, if she doesn't invite the younger daughter, obviously I won't be able to hang out (I'm not leaving her home with DH to go with one kid and exclude her). To make a long story short, I am hoping this doesn't cause drama, but I'm also now wishing I had not mentioned it. This is a very close friend and it's a party at her house that a bunch of kids will be coming to. Now I guess I will just see how it plays out. [/quote]

I have boys who are 2 years apart and my younger son also really adores and likes DS's friends. He gets invited to many neighborhood parties where kids often play together. He also gets hurt feelings often when his big brother's friend does not invite him.

I don't think you should feel offended at all and I don't understand why you would not want to hang out with your friend and leave younger DD with your DH if your DH is home.

Younger child is less likely to have tantrums about it now but it used to be a huge hassle for me to have my older child have a play date or attend birthday party without his sibling. I now try to arrange play date or other fun activity for younger DS if older DS has a play date or activity.[/quote]

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