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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your second post implies that you feel guilty that your kids are not popular. Being popular should not be a goal. It should be a by-product of being a nice kid.

I live in SF now, where there's zero popularity.  Seriously, the kids who are disliked are the kids who are bullies or badly behaved in class here. And kids don't tease them. Any kid who bullies another kid is shut down by all the other kids. Kids are not picked on for wearing worn out clothes or pants that are too short or anything.  I'm from MD where popularity is A Thing, so this is a very interesting dynamic to observe.

I would focus on giving less power to popularity and focusing on the good friendships they've made and being good people.  You can't get into college because you had a lot of people at your Sweet 16, you know what I'm saying?[/quote]

+1 This PP nailed it.  The only thing I'd add is that the goal (besides being a kid of good character as PP says above), is to have as a goal to surround yourself with people of good character.  Not to get distracted by popular people, or intelligent or witty people--they are ok only if they are also good people.[/quote]

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