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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here,

Like many of you, I thought this was something that I could just skip around. That's obvious, right?  However, DC is gifted just enough to detect my attempts to avoid the conversation. But, she is also very much the typical emotional three-year old.

So I think I need to develop a straightforward plan. Something that's clear and avoids the possibility of backtracking.

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Honestly OP yo are projecting your feelings onto your kid, Stop that right now.  Its clear you are not over this at all, the fact that you now want to reach out to the half sister to "move this along" tells me you really have not resolved the issues with your dad.  You ONLY tell your kid "I don;t have a dad" - he is 3 and not that interested honestly, even if you think he is "gifted".   Then you need to have a serious talk with your mom and a therapist. Your dad had an affair with your mom, wanted her just for sex and then it got complicated and he bailed.   It sucks, but that story is as old as time.  He probably told your mom a ton of lies and she bought them. Your mom is just as resposnbilbe for this as your dad. [/quote]

I'm trying to avoid the projection. I'm not exactly unbiased and that's why I don't think I'm able to keep this out of the dysfunctional territory.[/quote]

You're right, you're not. You are imagining that because your 3 yo knows about mammals and procreation that she can tell you're an illegitimate child and intuited that you're keeping something about your provenance from her. She does not. Tell her you don't have a dad because some people don't. Lie and say he died. You are making a mountain out of a molehill and projecting inappropriate thoughts and emotions on a 3 year old who is literally just asking you a simple question that all 3 year olds ask. [/quote]

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