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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Okay, if your family is not Christian, your DD is not missing out on celebrating anything with them. Why not do Christmas Eve and Christmas Day at home with you, DH and DD? Start your own traditions and celebrate according to your values. Your OP says DH is NOT interested in doing Christmas with his family which makes this an easy decision. You can drive up after Christmas, maybe even for New Year's Eve and have a visit with all the family then. Or look for other times in the year that make sense to you and both families. [/quote]

OP here. I think this is what we'll do. Not go up during the holidays, but make sure they understand that we've seen them quite a bit this past year. His family just thinks that since they're Christian and my family isn't that they then own Christmas. So when we go down they don't understand why my family would want us for more than a day or so (of course it always happens that my family sees us when there are no holidays and they have to work too). My family seems willing to come down and visit us sometimes in the next two weeks. They recognize that I'm really stressed and they are very minimalist as far as gifts, etc.

Quite frankly, we've seen DH's family on every single long weekend I've had in the last year (I don't get many holidays with my job) and they've managed to have DC and DH with them without me for at least a week or two, so I don't feel that much guilt about that. It's more that I feel guilty thinking about them opening up presents without kids there. I know kids make it more joyous. But we've agreed that we'll participate in their over the top celebrations next year.

Thanks for the helpful comments. [/quote]

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