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[quote=Anonymous]Happily married, semi retired. Spent too many years in a career that I really did not enjoy and that really did not produce enough income.

What went well-  We 'get each other" in our marriage;symbiotic and we appreciate each other. We are healthy, 2 kids who were happy,had everything we needed, if not everything we wanted...we  were both public servants with  limited income opportunities- but stable jobs. Lovely dogs who were part of the family- all of them...and we miss them! We were close with our families.

What did not go well:  We are Ok financially, but not super secure should something happen with a lot of cash. we do have pensions, savings.  We don't spend much, so we don't feel we are lacking. One kid divorced and moved far away so our close family was no longer-no fun filled afternoons with getting together like we did for years with kids and spouses, or like we did with our own extended families in years past, no grandchildren and not likely to have them, which is a big heartbreak.It isn't fair that we should expect it, it just is. My parents died - very hard in those last years when everything just slips through your fingers so fast- and then they are gone.No chance to go back to say those things or do those things that are undone. About to go through this with husband's parents. Life is lonely sometimes- friends have retired and moved away, etc., making new friends is hard without the usual connections of kids and work. People are in different places in their lives- older, have grandchildren, travel a lot, etc.

What I would have done differently- different job, better financial advice and practice, would not have spent so much for kid's weddings- fun,but a waste of $$ and it is not what is important, I would have had the kids pay for some of their own college- they would have been more invested, would have spent more time with my parents while they were alive.

Glad I married who I did.[/quote]

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