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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In my office, all the high ranking women are 2nd wives with step-children and no biological kids of their own. The one who did get married and had twins, divorced her husband because she was making more than him.

It is very easy to say "Lean In", but nothing in the corporate world actually encourage that and motherhood. [/quote]

This is what it comes down to, and this is what so pisses me off about the mommy wars (which, frankly, this thread seems to be a spin-off of). It's difficult to get a good, "real" job without a solid education. Because of parental abuse, I became independent in my late teens and worked in restaurants for over a decade while I went to school very part-time and supported myself. Even though I did earn a degree, at 30, I was married with a young child at that point and had very limited options for starting a career that would offset the cost of daycare. It would have been more expensive for my family for me to work and pay a daycare bill earning what I could as a bartender than it has been for me to just stay home. Bartending also doesn't really fit the narrative of family life for me (long and odd hours, physical labor, questionable work environment).

The mommy wars presuppose that all working mothers have a high earning capacity or a professional career to continue building. It doesn't take into account the experiences of working class women, like me, for whom work has not historically been glamorous nor well-paying. Having a degree now feels pointless. It's one thing to say that we, as a society, seek to create opportunities for educated women. However, in a case like mine, this feels like cheap talk: realistically speaking, how am I to build a career that's truly worth it to me and my family?[/quote]

I am going through the same thing. [/quote]

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