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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have to admit when I was single in my late 20's I went to lunch with just about the same frequency with an older co-worker and yes, it was a lot about seeing if he would go and kind of flirty and an ego boost for me that he would schedule these lunches with me.
A few months would go by without contact and I would want a little bit of attention and we would go out to lunch. Rinse and repeat for a few years.
I would dig my heels in and act offended and horrified if anyone suggested it was anything but a friendly lunch, but 15 years later I can admit what my intention was. If he would have made a move, I probably would have gone for it.
And I assume he enjoyed the attention and flirtation too.[/quote]

I have been the man in that situation.  So while I am in the camp that agrees there is nothing wrong with lunch or drinks between men and women, there is often, in my experience, a sexual tension if both are attractive and flirty.  Doesn't mean someone is going to act on it.  Flirting itself is harmless.[/quote]

Yes, but a good man doesn't put himself in this kind of situation. It can be hard to find out that your man isn't a good man, even as he is getting older.

At my gym there are two men that like me. One asks me to go places with him and do things with him - which I would never in a million years entertain because it's not reasonable behavior for a married woman. Nor am I interested but even if I was how would I explain to my kids who this man is? How about to my mom? My friends? The husband? 
If he were a friend of my family and someone I could bring home and introduce and include in family and work functions then yes. But really all he is is a guy from the gym who seems to have the hots for me. So no - we are not going anywhere together. Frankly I don't even know his name.

That's what this relationship seems to be - two people with the hots for each other having lunch together and trying to justify it. Yuck. [/quote]

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