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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What she said wasn't  ok. The fact that you said nothing means that this is probably your normal dynamic with her.is this normally the topic? Your weight?

Having said that I would never have served myself three frozen waffles in a group living setting  where there are other mouths to feed, especially frozen waffles which I also consider to be last minute kids food. It sucks even more that your husband was out running at the time as you were gorging on these waffles in your mother's eyes. i'm sure the contrast was not lost on your mother.

Id think carefully before doing this trip again. I can't think of much worse than a trip like this other than actually having to wear my bathing suit in front of my mother on the beach.[/quote]

It sounds like you have your own issues with your weight and your mother.  Get your own thread.[/quote]

What a weird and mean thing to say. I had a wonderful mother who is since deceased and perhaps this is why I can see there are boundaries issues with what the mother-daughter relationship is in the situation. I  what a weird and mean thing to say. I had a wonderful mother who is since deceased and perhaps this is why I can see there are boundaries issues with what the mother-daughter relationship is in the situation. I don't know what I wrote that was misconstrued in my response.  My comment about "my mother seeing me on the beach" was really meant to say your mother if I were you and the situation. My mother saw me on the beach many times in all states of health including pregnancy and never would've said these things to me. [/quote]

Not the pp you responded to, but your post was pretty mean and weird too. I don't think the pp's comment about your issues was out of line at all. I thought it was a perfect response to your pp. [/quote]

??? I'm sorry to the OP if my comments in anyway offended her. I'm just going to quote another poster here because what she said exactly encapsulates how I feel and what I thought I had written. Peace out.

"Your mom was way out of line although it sounds as though she may have been feeling the stress of having a houseful of people. She may have been counting on making those waffles for the kids and was annoyed that you, as a grown up, didn't read her mind. There seems to be a lot of assuming going on - you assumed that the food was fair game, your mom assumed that you would not eat up all the kiddie food. Regardless, she really stepped over the line with her comments. I think I would go to the grocery store and keep a private stash of easy snacks in my room and make it a point to go out (or order in) for my hot meals. Or you can book a hotel room for yourself and just get out of that house. Or you can just leave."[/quote]

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