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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm late to the party, but ... isn't it hard to teach a child not to hit when you're hitting them?

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this assumes that the point of the lecture (spanking) is not to hit anyone, ever. while in fact the point is not to hit the parent. [/quote]

But is a child going to understand that concept? My child hits me, so I hit him back to teach him not to hit me?
I parent by modeling the behavior that I expect from my children. [/quote]

You can't parent solely by modeling. Otherwise your kid would have a job, husband, cook and drive. A parent being allowed spank does not mean that somehow the child is allowed to hit the parent any more than a child can take your ipad, send you to bed or give you a timeout. there is no contradiction, parents do many things and their kids are not allowed to do.

And I don't spank btw.[/quote]

The things that you list - cooking, driving, etc - are skills and abilities, not behavior. There's a difference. Of course I don't let my toddler chop carrots with a knife so that she can model my ACTIONS and do the same. I DO expect my children to model behavior, though: speaking kindly, handling the cat gently, saying please and thank you, etc.
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I also did not intend to imply that I parent solely by modeling. But it does accomplish a lot in a positive manner. [/quote]

Indeed it does. But modeling as you describe in your argument's revision, and punishment that may include spanking, are not mutually exclusive.[/quote]

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