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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is important to teach kids to commit, but not blindly! The normal standard for adult activities would permit ceding other committments in order to attend important family events. I think it is fine to teach a kid that they might need to push back against people making unreasonable demands on their time.

And as a side note, what kind of coach punishes a kid for going to a family wedding?  Something has gotten a little out of whack and I would be concerned about my kid being involved in an activity that does not have appropriate boundaries. Olympic trials or state championship, ok. But early season tournament? Sorry. Not the be all end all.[/quote]

Exactly. And this wedding was known almost a year in advance. Give me a break on the "you made a commitment to the team" shit. His aunt has gone to everyone of his events since he was born. She some f'ing respect and go to her one event.

20 years ago this would never of happened anywhere.  How parents and now their kids prioritize sports is ridiculous these days. [/quote]

No, 20 years ago (actually more than that), I was allowed to choose. But then again, I was also allowed to walk a mile to school, do my own laundry, and a whole bunch of things. I usually chose the right things, but when I didn't, I suffered the consequence. I may not have known it till after, but it's how I became an independent, thoughtful adult.

The detail everyone is neglecting is that auntie moved her date(s) to accommodate niece's  (who is the older child's) sporting/ hobby events. Parents (and thus, auntie) neglected to account for nephew. So, basically the entire event was set to accommodate niece. Now nephew is getting flak because he doesn't warrant the same attention, but presumedly, his events are important to HIM? 
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