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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Also, I really don't think my "nephew" would be completely bored.  More bored than at the uber fun tournament, no doubt!  But I believe he was legitimately excited for the small wedding where to us it was about family.  I think he felt it was a little bit about him and us collectively and not just about me and my partner.  And that is my view, it's for all of us.  I think my family shares that view based on the wedding planning and discussions and excitement so far.  But then there was this important tournament.  And the kid's high school experience is also very important clearly.[/quote]
Hi OP.  I'm the PP you were responding to above.  I don't think your "nephew" would be bored at your wedding either, based on your descriptions of your family, and don't think that's a factor that ought to be weighed into a decision like this.  I know my nieces of the same age would come fully prepared to have a great time at a similar event (esp. if there were the prospect of any cute boy guests)--we all love a good party, and will have fun whenever the extended family is together.

It's just that I don't think the people who are belittling your sister's decision have a full picture of what it's like for a child at such a vulnerable age to be starting a sport at a new place with a new team and coach for the very first time.  It's not just one of 7,000 other games.  It's the first step for something that will likely be very important in the kid's high school career, and first impressions can truly be make or break, esp. if the coach is not top-notch, which many high school ones are not.  I imagine the tournament will be more pressure-filled than fun as the kid works to try to get a starting position.

Best wishes for your wedding, and I'm glad your mom is planning to come![/quote]

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