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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe try stop being such a judgemental asshole. [/quote]

Hahahah...yeah, whatever.

My EX-wife did this crap - depressed, grossly (and I mean gross) over weight - wouldn't have sex, was miserable to live with, yadda yadda...for YEARS.  Yes, this is why I basically divorced her ultimately.  I got tired of being married to a depressed person who was just a constant cloud of negative and had turned into a tub.  Marriage is not a suicide pact.  You don't get to just give up and quit trying altogether once you've roped someone into saying "I do".

I do agree with the posts suggesting she's depressed - I would strongly urge the OP to press her to look into that.  Yes, her libido may tank (so your sex life may still suck for a while) while on meds for depression, but you have kids, so you should make the extra effort to try to turn things around.

I put up with it for far too long - about 7-8 years too long - during which time any remaining "give a shit" I had was ground/burned out.  When I finally said "fuck it, I'm willing to leave over this" she was suddenly willing to start to make some real changes, whereas previously, I'd been fighting the tar-baby of passive-aggression: I'd complain, beg, plead, cajole, etc., and she'd make promises and ZERO would actually change.  Yes, sometimes people need a fire under their ass to get off the couch and start to make an effort.  If I'd done that 8 years earlier, I would have still cared enough to be thrilled when a real effort got made.

Yes, I'm projecting my experience onto your comments, but there's one more possibility for you to consider.[/quote]

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