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[quote=Anonymous]OP, just want to say that you and your DH are amazing.  Also, if something like this happened to me, I also would not let the niece (and baby) stay long term.  I would find an appropriate place for her when she is pregnant (like that St. Ann's suggestion on pg 1).

I would also not commit for anything but day-by-day (or a week or so).  If she turns out to be wonderful (which sounds out of character) then I'd re-think it all.  But the default would be that this is temporary.  The crisis was acute, and the appropriate response is to triage, which is what you have done. You don't want it to turn it into a chronic situation.

You can love somebody and be supportive and at the same time have boundaries that help you stay sane while helping that person over the long term.  Accusations to the contrary are ridiculous.  There is no obligation to become a door mat because her parents are shirking their parental responsibilites.

I wonder if you can call your brother's pastor/priest and "out" them.  If you could get the pastor/priest on your side, (which, you would think would be easy to do if they at all think about what Jesus would do), s/he may have HUGE leverage on your brother and his wife.  [/quote]

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