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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hate that every infertile woman I kmow go so easy on themselves for being consumed with jealosy and hatred. Jealousy is a sin and pregnant women did nothing to deserve. it. when infertile women act so horribly that no one can be around them (in most cases this includes their husband) they are only making a bad situation worse. know that infertility is hard, we tried for 4 years for our #3 - but I did not act like a rude person. And while I know that having 2 healthy children already is easier than having no children, it still was not fun. The reason I didn't turn jealous and bitter is because parenting (if done right) teaches people to be selfless - even if you are parenting an adopted child when there is a baby to take care of you have to learn to put another person before yourself. People who have primary infertility have never experienced this so they are still very childlike.  My sister hasnt been able to have any children and she is down right awful. Actually, I don't know a single nice infertile woman, and I know several infertile women closely- until they get pregnant for the first time they are completely awful women. and what makes it worse is that they excuse their selfish behavior. An infertile woman's struggles DOES NOT give you a pass to hate everyone around you. If you are jealous and depressed do something about it, dont expect the world to change for YOU - and don't say "go easy on yourself" CHANGE stop being hateful and a jealous monster. It is not the worlds fault that you are infertile. No other group of people with struggles gives themselves as many "passes" to act horribly as infertile women do. Cancer patients or people with extreme money problems or a disabled child do not allow themselves to be jealous of every other person not in their situation. They do not allow themselves to refuse to be friends with people not in their situation - why do you?[/quote]

Wow, this is way over the top.  I do agree with the poster that women struggling with fertility issues do not get a free pass to be complete bitches, but they do deserve a measure of respect and sympathy.  Really, its all about finding a reasonable middle ground.  For women struggling with infertility that do have a hard time being civil to pregnant women, they may get a measure of sympathy for a while, but continuing to behave in this way in the long term will only isolate them further, which will only lead to more depression and feelings of unhappiness.  If this continues for years on end, their relationships will likely be damaged beyond repair.  It is their responsibility to care of themselves and work through their issues.  This is the case for anybody dealt a raw deal in life.  Ultimately counseling is likely in order. [/quote]

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