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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP back with an update! I thought about it more & decided Im going to wait until after the baby is born, maybe 8-12 weeks out? Then I am going to go to her and just have a discussion with her 1 on 1. I will not show her proof or mention it unless it looks like she doesnt believe me, & then I will. I will also see if the arrival of the baby changes the social scene & if they keep spending time together. Something about them all socializing so often makes it a lot worse. & the cheating woman acting like her best friend, its wrong. I spoke to my neighborhood girlfriends and were all on the same page. [/quote]

Frankly, I think this is a lot better than an anonymous note.  An anonymous note is the worst of all possible worlds - the wife gets potentially devastating information that rocks her world, but no way to follow up with questions or assess the reliability of the source.  At least this way, she'll have some information about how much weight she should give your info.

Not thrilled about the "speaking to the neighborhood girlfriends" part - this woman has enough on her plate without all y'all gossiping behind her back.[/quote]

There is no altruistic purpose for what OP wants to do. She is a nasty, ugly, jealous, vindictive, busybody who gets off on other people's misery.

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I'm not talking about OP's motives, frankly.  I'm more interested in how this will affect the wife.  I'm of the opinion that OP should either keep her mouth shut (clearly not happening) or pass along her info identifying herself as the source.  An anonymous note, which many PPs recommended, is the worst possible option.  The wife has this terrible burden without any way of checking to see if it's a hoax, baseless revenge, kids screwing around, etc.  And if her DH tries to deny it, she would have no way of asking follow up questions - she'd just be left in limbo.

So while I'm really hoping I don't know OP in real life, because she does sound drama-prone, I'm thinking at least this isn't the worst choice for the wife at issue.[/quote]

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