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[quote=Anonymous]Well, up until about six years ago my DW's sex life and mine were pretty good.  We were two healthy, young adults going at whenever and whereever we could.  I then had to deploy overseas, during which time DW's mother died.  When we got back together after my deployment, DW was not gung ho for sex.  She said she needed to time to recover and grieve for her mother.  So, I gave her space and time.  When we did start to have sex again, she was no longer interested in my bringing her to orgasm.  She preferred basically, a "wham bam thank you m'am" sort of approach. For most men, this might be OK.  However, I lost interest in sex with her altogether, because it appeared to me to be "pity sex" or "sex for sex's sake" rather than as a way to emotionally bond with me, her DH.  I need to be seduced.  If I just want to get off, I can, as one PP put it, handle it myself.

Then I discovered that DW was having an affair, plus that she was so stupid to have that affair and to have unprotected sex with her lover or FWB or whatever.  Then she would come home and want to f**k  me.  Well, we have been working through our issues - but after 2 years I still cannot bear to have sex with my DW.  Every time she attempts to initiate, I just want to be someplace else.  Frankly, I don't think her attempts at sex are because she sees it as an expression of her love for me, but because she feels she can manipulate into something I don't want if she uses sex as her weapon.

So, here we both are - miserable as hell (at least I am) - and I put so much emphasis on my part on sexual fidelity that despite the fact I am surrounded on a day-to-day basis with any number of attractive, bright women whom I would love to bone in an instant, I can never bring myself to do that.  It is not because I would hurt my DW, but because I perhaps have too much respect for myself and the institution of marriage and the vows I made.

However, if we cannot solve our problems within the next year, I am filing for divorce.  At 47, my life is too short to keep trying to satisfy the undending emotional neediness of my DW's damaged soul.  [/quote]

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